The Complete* Guide to Fucking Blue

February 5, 2023

*not really

This post is not a fantasy document; it is intended as a guide for my current and potential partners, to help them navigate my sometimes confusing sexuality. It's therefore written as straightforwardly and clearly as possible, in a factual tone, without attempt to sexify anything. It's here as a public blog post because I'm a bit of an exhibitionist, and anyone reading my blog has at least implicitly consented to hearing about my sex life. So anyway, if that doesn't interest you, now's the time to leave.

It's written in the third person... because.

Consent and Safety

Blue has a "cute voice" and an "adult voice." The cute voice is a green light - it means that what ever is going on, it's going good! Cute voice is always consent.
Adult voice is very distinct - you know it when you hear it. Adult voice is used to check in - either to respond to checkins and make it clear that yes things are good, or to raise a yellow-card and ask for a change. If it doesn't come out, then things are going well!
"Stop" or "Red" would be safewords; Blue has never used them, because "adult voice" serves the same purpose.
Blue is always self-monitoring for safety and enjoyment. This is not to say that you shouldn't check in; your feelings of safety and limits are very important. She wants to make clear that she is always a partner - even when she seems dreamy and deep in sub-space, there's a part of her paying attention and ready to step in should anything need adjustment.
This includes while on mind-altering substances - she's had some quite strong ones, and even in the middle of intense trips she's found that there's an "adult" part of her watching and self-monitoring for safety.

Negotiation and Scene Setting

You will, unfortunately, encounter a lot of "maybe"s or "let's see"s when attempting to negotiate a scene with Blue. This is because Blue often doesn't really know what she's in the mood for before she gets revved up.
This means that renegotiating or adding new things mid scene is welcomed and invited. Horny-Blue enjoys things that pre-scene Blue was not sure she's interested in on a given evening. Lots of "maybe"s turn into "yes"es mid-scene. Horny-Blue is entirely capable of giving consent; I promise she won't say yes to anything she doesn't actually want.
The same is true for Blue in an altered state. If you are someone she's expressed interest in (you know who you are), then drunk, high or tripping Blue is still interested (and likely very interested - she often gets quite horny when in altered states), and you can take her consent seriously. That is: if she's expressed interest beforehand, please do take advantage!
Blue will never ingest substances without your prior consent and knowledge. She takes your boundaries and needs seriously! You won't find her drunk or high when you weren't expecting it.

Body Parts

From head to toe. Lot's of suggestions and advice here on how to make her feel good; anything that's actually a hard limit is clearly marked as such.

Blue very much enjoys having her hair pulled. It's best to make sure you get a full handful, so as not to tug on any particular strand or lock too hard.
Head-rubs and scalp stimulation great, mostly on the front and top of the head rather than the sides or back. One particularly effective motion so to "rake" backwards with your nails from the hairline in the direction the hair lays.
Blue loves having her cheeks and face stroked gently. Like, you will not believe how much she likes it.
Blue's chin and jaw is extremely sensitive / delicate. Touching fine and welcome, but please no pressure.
The sides of the neck, especially the top towards the ear, are incredibly sensitive in a good way. Don't start there, but once she gets going, kisses, especially from behind, will drive her absolutely wild.
Grabbing her neck / choking is very welcome and enjoyable. She very much does not enjoy having her air intake actually restricted - not too hard - but otherwise it's a good time all around.
She loves having hands run over her back, and occasionally back scratches. But don't go for a massage / muscle rub - those mostly just hurt rather than feel nice. She might ask for them, but that's very distinctly a separate activity, not a sexy time thing.
Blue's breasts are very, very sensitive. She encourages you to touch and enjoy them as you please, including roughly and to elicit sounds, but only the very gentlest of touches is pleasant for her. The most enjoyable way for her to fondle them is with gentle rubs and very gentle squeezes. Try rubbing your palm over her nipple, only barely touching so that it doesn't depress into the areolae.
Avoid arm-pits. Blue does not like being tickled.
Pin her wrists or otherwise hold her down. She freaking loves that. Hand holding is much appreciated. Generally avoid stroking wrists and palms, it'll get ticklish.
Don't stick things in her belly button. Just generally ignore it.
Blue's butt is perfect for spanking. You should do that.
When dealing with her pussy, as a general rule put your skin in contact with hers and manipulate the flesh, rather than stroking along the skin. Stroking / sliding can cause irritation, especially in places where there's hair. Prefer rubbing. She'll demonstrate the difference if asked.
She likes a focus on the center of the pussy, rather than on the labia - good sensations come from the center line. Don't bee-line for the clit, she needs to get warmed up first.
Once Blue is warmed up, feel free to play with her ass hole. It usually feels good, and she'll let you know if she's not in the mood. Don't start there though, she's got to get warmed up first.
Her inner thighs are sensitive - it's easy to tickle them or grab too hard and cause pain. You don't need to avoid them, just be aware that they're generally not a place to go to make her feel good. Go there because you want to, not because she wants you to.
Don't go lower than the knee. Her calves are ticklish, and just don't mess around with her feet, they'll pull her right out of the mood.

Impact and Pain

Biting is good. Leaving hickies is always good. Biting hard enough to leave bruises can be good, check on that first.
Spanking is good. Let's do that.
Impact / toy use should be discussed beforehand. She tends not to care overmuch about which specific toy is being used, so going through a list of 'is this ok, is this ok' isn't very necessary.
She tends to enjoy things that are more 'surface level'. Stingy/thuddy doesn't feel like terribly descriptive divide to her, she always struggles with that. But she'd generally prefer things that aren't "deep" impact.
Don't break skin. Accidental abrasions or scratches are fine, she won't be concerned. But nothing sharp.
Blue can enjoy pain - that is, intentional acts hurting her, like spanking, biting, hitting with toys, twisting nipples. But she basically never enjoys discomfort - that is, accidental or prolonged minor bothers. She'll frequently adjust so her hair isn't being tugged, on shift around for a more comfortable position. Please don't let this bother you, it's no comment on if she's enjoying herself or not.

Misc

Blue will usually have her eyes closed during a scene and during sex. It helps her focus on the sensations, and to not pull herself out of the mood by thinking too much. Blindfolds can be nice for this reason. A pair of tights works better than any custom-purpose blindfold!
Roughness is always appreciated. You can ask her to move and she'll comply, but you can also push her around and she'll enjoy that a great deal. Non-verbal direction in general is very pleasant.
Blue is sometimes very ticklish, and does not enjoy tickles. If she gets giggly at a particular touch, move to a different activity and maybe try that thing again later once the sensation has died down. It's not a "no" to any particular touch, but a 'line busy, try again later' sort of deal. 'Feathery' touches, especially with the tips of fingers, are likely to be ticklish - consider using the pads of your fingers rather than the tips.
Anal is a sometimes thing. If Blue gets really revved up, she can think it's the best idea in the world. Ask about it in the moment, rather than in advance.
If you're male-bodied, she finds things work out best if you get off first - eg, do not try and hold out to both finish at the same time. Shoot your load when you're ready then finish her. It also often works best to come from behind - rub yourself in her butt crack or between her thighs from the rear.
Shower sex is the best thing. We should do more of that. Especially with male-bodied people, it tends to work extremely well, as Blue is very scent-driven and having less scent can help open her up to a lot more possibilities.

Limits

Some of these are mentioned above, but reiterating to have a clear list.

No breaking the skin. Accidental abrasions / scratches won't bother her, but don't bring anything sharp into the bedroom.
No electrical play. Tried it, not interested.
No heat/cold play or wax. Tried it, not her favorite.
Don't mess around with her belly button, arm pits or feet.